24 STRATEGIES TO DRAMATICALLY INCREASE SELF-ESTEEM
Most of the issues of integrity we face are not big issues, they are usually small ones. Yet, the accumulated weight of our choices has an impact on our sense of self. When we act in contradiction to moral values held by someone else, we may or may not be “wrong” but we cannot fault ourselves and live in guilt, shame and blame
for having betrayed our own convictions. But if we act against what we ourselves regard as right, then we are acting against our own judgment.
In other words, if your actions clash with your expressed values and what you feel is important, you are betraying yourself because hypocrisy, by its very nature, is self-invalidating. A default on integrity undermines our sense of self and damages self-esteem like no external rebuke or rejection ever can. Live your own life, not the life others have decided is best for you.
If you haven’t taken time to decide who you are and what you want your life to be organized around, then now is the perfect time to get clear on your values. You can’t be true to yourself if you don’t know who you are or what you stand for in life.