Many people
mistakenly think it’s necessary to detach from ex boyfriends after a difficult
break-up. Or to detach from friends after they’ve abandoned you. We can’t go
around detaching from everyone who walks out of our life. The world would be a
very lonely place indeed. Read More . . .Listen to 30 minute Podcast.
It’s not about detachment, it’s about expansion and inclusion. Everything that exists is part of the whole creation. The idea is to become one with it, not to isolate yourself through further separation. If you need to detach from anything, detach from the thoughts in your head that keep the painful emotions alive. Because let’s face it, it’s not your ex you want to detach from, it’s the pain of betrayal, separation, abandonment and fear that you want to detach from . . . and the memories that keep replaying over and over in your head.
Where is the actual pain and
suffering coming from? Your thoughts create your
emotions, and you create your thoughts. So in actuality, you are creating your
own pain. It’s important to take full responsibility for your own emotions because
only then can you end your own suffering. If you think different thoughts you
will feel different emotions. It’s basically that simple. It has nothing to do with
your boyfriend at all, so there is no need to attach or detach from him, or
anyone else for that matter.
If you
enter a relationship hoping or expecting the other person to be responsible for
your happiness, you will exit the relationship feeling like he ripped out your
heart and stomped on it with football cleats.
Relationships are a great place
to grow but most people don’t enter them with that objective in mind. They think
the other person and the relationship will fill the part of them that feels
empty or incomplete. It can’t. Only you can do that.
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